Glennon and Abby

 I can't remember when I first came across Glennon Doyle`s work. I think I came across her blog and eventually found her books. When I found that her book Love Warrior was about how she saved her marriage after learning about her husband's infidelity, I thought it was fitting - I was looking for a reason to save my marriage at the time and thought it would give me some insight. 

I followed her life as she was figuring it all out, she was so relatable to me because she was raw and authentic about her mental state and how she saw the world. Her book Untamed shook something inside me. When the book came out, I already knew that I was working on a marriage that can never be saved. The truth in that book forced me to look at my own life and what I was not willing to see.

I have learned so much from her, and her podcast We Can Do Hard Things is filled with so much truth that every woman should hear. I learn a lot from listening to her podcast guests, but what I always love to see is how much Glennon and Abby love each other. I have never seen what real love looks like, but these two instances from their life gave me an idea.

1. Glennon found that she was cheated on by her husband of many years during a conversation at a couple's counseling session. After her divorce she met Abby, and Glennon describes one instance where she checks Abby's phone (because she still had trust issues). Abby's response to it when Glennon told her what she did was asking her, " what else do you need to see?" Abby was willing to share all her passwords and anything else she needed to reassure someone who was struggling with trust issues. She did it in the most kind and loving way. 
2. Second story is an instance where Abby wanted salt to do some sort of a treatment to their dog. Glennon who didn't want to go downstairs after getting into bed, reluctantly went downstairs and brought the bottle of pepper (by mistake). Abby looks at the bottle and says "Honey, that is pepper, not salt". I can imagine if I ever do that I would probably get yelled at asking why I can't even recognize pepper and salt and it will turn into a yelling match.

There are so many other stories of them, this doesn't mean they don't have arguments, but they do resolve all of it and choose each other daily.

 
 Love is not a chemical imbalance (limerence) as Hollywood tries to instill in your head. Love is choosing each other every single day in a loving kind compassionate manner. Love, kindness and forgiveness is all that is needed for any relationship to last a lifetime. 

Do check We Can Do Hard Things  podcast, its amazing and more than that, it will force you to look at your own life truthfully.
 

 
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